Although most couples begin life on a positive note, problems begin to arise when one partner begins to feel neglected or ignored for some reason. There have been instances of couples parting way despite deciding to get married.
Issues creep into a relationship when one partner begins to feel insecure for any reason. This makes it difficult for both of them to continue. Things would be better if both partners understood each other and displayed the patience needed to strengthen the relationship. In most cases, couples do not realize that insecurity in love can hamper relationships.
[su_quote class=”cust-pagination”]“Insecure people only eclipse your sun because they’re jealous of your daylight and tired of their dark, starless nights.” — Shannon L. Alder[/su_quote]
Where Does Insecurity Stem from?
The current times come with a number of choices and plenty of distraction that makes it hard to have fun in our relationships. When one person feels insecure, he or she begins to fear about the intentions of the partner and begins to wonder whether their relationship will survive.
Suspicion and doubts lead to the miscommunication bringing changes to one’s thoughts and the way they express themselves. A trust deficit begins to develop when one partner is not satisfied with the answers provided for any queries raised. When the frequency of such incidents increases, a distress develops between both partners, creating a distance between them. The partner who feels targeted during the initial stages may try to control the situation. However, if no changes are seen he or she may consider opting out of the relationship.
Dealing with The Insecurity
Numerous psychiatrists have mentioned that insecurity can block the love between the partners and give rise to anger, suspicion, and emotions. The proper way to deal with this phenomenon would be enhancing communication that is crisp and one that provides the help needed to clear the issues. Simple examples like shutting the timetable of the day can make the other partner secure.
It must be understood that any mistrust which may have developed could be due to traumatic childhoods that may need to be repaired. Physical and emotional contact between the partners can help to calm the heart. However, insecurities due to jealousy about each other’s friends will need an in-depth discussion. On occasions, the insecurities rise because one partner has issues with his or her body and matters like these deserve attention too.
Insecurity Does Not Have To Suffocate Love
When one partner is jealous about any matter, he or she can begin suffocating your love by giving the matter constant and unwanted attention. There is a need for both partners to understand the difference between their emotions. Tagging the partner about something constantly will not prove helpful. Rather, things would be in a better position if one of them is left alone for some time.
It is essential for a partner not to get the feeling they are attached to you at all times. When this feeling develops, chances are that one of them will begin to pull away from the partner. At this stage, it would help to draw a line and give them the space they need.
[su_quote class=”cust-pagination”]The psychic task which a person can and must set for himself is not to feel secure, but to be able to tolerate insecurity.—Erich Fromm[/su_quote]
It would also be essential for both partners to understand they are not dealing with a crisis in their love life. Rather, they only have some differences that can easily and definitely be mended.
Things will begin to look better for both partners if they decide to look at both issues separately and decide to deal with them in a similar manner. They must never suffocate their love because of any misconceptions that may creep in due to a third-party. Instead, they should remove the obstructions that hampering their relationship because doing so will eliminate the insecurity from their love.